Vibe Your Way To The Lay

Hey now.

It's a beautiful day here in San Francisco, once again. The sun is shining, the birds are singing. And you KNOW what that means.

Yep. It's time for some Real Social Dynamics Mailbag action, yo!

Our first question of the day comes from Luis, who has a very relevant inquiry.

QUESTION:

Hey Jeffy!!

Ok, first I wanted to thank you for the time you are taking to make the newsletters possible. I just have a the suggestion that you could write about what are the keys to creating a good vibe with people. About how can I become a smooth, chilled back cool guy that attracts all sorts of people.

-Luis L.

MY REPLY:

Well, Luis, I'm glad you asked.

Creating a good vibe, or "vibing" as we like to call it, is a skill that is absolutely NECESSARY if you plan on mastering the art of pick-up.

It's so essential, because without it, it's difficult to build the levels of trust and comfort that are necessary for most girls to sleep with you.

What I'll do typically is, go in and open the set, deliver my HOOK, and once sufficient attraction has been built, sit back, vibe, and just ride that vibe all the way to the lay.

Usually whenever I say this, guys say, "What exactly do you say?"

The best thing I can say that will help you out is to go and challenge yourself in any conversation to find either a story or interesting bit of information about the topic at hand.

A great game to play is the association game, where I'd say the word "elephant" and you'd have to come up with a story that relates to this.

Now, you could be thinking, "there's nothing that relates to elephants." My friend, that's a limiting belief if I've ever heard one. Let's see off the top of my head, there's "elephant, ivory, Africa, hunting, tusks, zoos, and big wild animals."

Now, if you can't think of anything to say relating to these topics, then you need to work on your creative capabilities. That's one reason why people like aritists, musicians, writers and actors are so good at the game because they have wildly creative minds.

They can talk about things for hours - you must understand that women love men with something to say. So, this is something that you may need to work on.

You MUST be able to vibe with a chick. I used to go in with attract tactics blazing -- man, I had them. I was busting and making them laugh, and touching them and all type of stuff.

Yet, I didn't feel like the interactions were going anywhere.

Girls would start getting all upset and then it would go nowhere.

Then, one of my friends looked at me and said, "Dude, just talk with them...keep it fun."

I tell you that it was like heaven opened up and a ray of light shined in on me. Then, I went through a period where I just opened up chicks and worked to keep the vibe alive. After I mastered this, then I reintroduced the attract tactics, and it was GAME ON.

The key that I 've found is that if you're reaching for something to say, IT'S PROBABLY NOT ATTRACT TACTICS.

I see students who run out of conversational pieces, so they start teasing the girls or playing games. This could even be after thirty minutes into the conversation, that's the wrong way to be in my experience.

Usually, attraction is established within the first few minutes of the interaction, and then afterwards, you build massive amounts of comfort, trust, and connection.

When she feels these things and to add to this you've properly qualified her (or specifically showed her how she's unique, eg, "Wow, you know going out tonight, I didn't expect to meet someone who I thought was really cool, but that's not the case. I really feel like I connect with you , specifically the way you do X trait.), she will feel attraction toward you.

If that doesn't clear things up, I'm planning on devoting an entire issue to this very subject in the near future, so stay tuned for that!

Here's a success story from a student who took the Bootcamp in Los Angeles at the Project Hollywood Mansion:

SUCCESS STORY:

jlaix:

The material you guys teach is fantastic, and the coaches explain it well so you can understand it.

The structure of the seminar is great because I thinks it's the best way to learn it. Material is unbelievable, and the instructors are fantastic at teaching it. They seem very dedicated to making sure the students get this stuff.

I've learned in incredible amount since I took the program. I totally have a different outlook on social interactions and come out looking great. Before the bootcamp, certain social situations would occur where I wouldn't know what to do, but I do now.

I'm really understanding it and am starting to see the bigger picture. I can approach, open, and close which is what I did about 5 min ago.

You guys know your (stuff), and the program is organized great.

Thanks!

- Sam K., St. Paul, MN

MY REPLY:

You closed five minutes ago and you're writing to me? Freak!

Haaa just kidding, sort of.

I really appreciate your kind words, and I'm ecstatic to hear that the program has translated into success for you back in "the real world".

We make sure to take the time needed for each student to fully understand the material. If you want to spend more time on any particular subject, we explore it until you're completely satisfied that you grasp the concepts.

That's really what makes our bootcamps "Individualized"; it's not necessarily the one-on-one instruction, but that commitment to make sure YOU get the value you expect and deserve from a program like this.

I'm willing to bet that you're already picturing yourself as a straight-up MACK, approaching beautiful women with total confidence in your abilities... and more importantly, converting those approaches to full-monty lays with remarkable consistency. No more statistical roulette!

It's there... you can see it.

You just need a little bit of motivation!

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Cool. Next question comes from Matt, a student majoring in "wuss" at a small time university:

QUESTION:

Hey whatsup, I love your material and have learned a great deal in the few weeks I have been reading it. I have one problem I am a big time wuss.

I just got out of a long term relationship like a month ago and since I have been to scared to make any real approaches at women. Sometimes they will smile at me or we will make eye contact and I just can not start a convo with them, I just get way too scared.

Please give me some tips on how to jump start my confidence, it is not that I think lowly of myself I just am a wicked wuss and fold under pressure. Thanks please help!

- Matt from a small time university

MY REPLY:

Frequently, students will email me saying things like, "I want to do approaches but I need to work on my inner game first."

When I hear this, I don't know whether to scratch my head in confusion or laugh out loud.

What exactly does that mean, "work on your inner game"?

Does it mean you're meditating and visualizing yourself as some buffed out Adonis, picking up chicks? I don't get it.

I mean, sure, some people might genuinely need therapy and I'm not trying to belittle that or discount the value of it in any way.

I do believe, however, that the best and fastest way to improve your inner game is to first work on your OUTER GAME.

In other words, you have to get out there and start doing the approaches.

Have you ever been to a swimming pool with a really high diving board, like an Olympic high dive? I have, and I remember the first time I got up there, looking down at the water from waaaay up there, I was really scared.

The longer I stayed up there looking at that water, the more scared I became. The only solution was to clear my mind of all thoughts and step off the board. For the couple of seconds it took me to fall through the air before I hit the water, I was in sheer terror.

Then I hit the water, realized I was fine, and came up for air, laughing my ass off. I immediately ran back up to the platform for another go.

It's the same thing with approaching girls. It's something that seems frightening at first, due to social conditioning and a host of other factors, but once you get accustomed to it, it's a thrill like no other.

You learn to love that feeling in your stomach right before you roll up, knowing that it could go either way, and all you have is your wits and your training to make it or break it.

Remember, dude, it's called "THE GAME" for a reason. Get out there and enjoy it. Once you get some approaches under your belt, it's inevitable that you'll have some success, and consequently become more sure of yourself and less of a wicked wuss, as you put it.

Experience breeds competence which breeds confidence.

Look, you miss 100% of the shots you don't take, right?

So get out there, take a deep breath, and get those first shaky cold approaches under your belt. Once you see how easy it is, you'll become a pick-up ADDICT.

Have you ever been totally 'in the zone?' Ever had times that women are mesmerized by your presence... and throw their inhibitions to the wind in their desire to get with you?

These are the times when you're clearly the man. You have presence. Total domination of your internal and external environment.

Everything flows like greased silk... and you're suddenly a supercharged version of yourself with genius wit, lightning reflexes and an unstoppable ***ual magnetism.

That's what the Blueprint is all about. But frankly, I'm not even scratching the surface of this thing.

Do yourself a favor - visit:

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You'll be glad you did.

Well, it's about that time again. Like I said, it's a beautiful day outside, and even though I typically avoid the sun like the plague due to my irrational terror of skin cancer, I think even I am gonna get out there and enjoy the beautifulness.

Maybe I'll go fly a kite or something, even though I don't have the slightest idea where to get such an item.

Oh, I'm sure I'll figure it out, I'm a big boy.

Till next time, keep it up.

Sincerely,

Jeffy, Executive Coach
REAL SOCIAL DYNAMICS

PS...Do you have any questions or success stories that you'd like to see in this newsletter? Keep it brief, email them to me at jlaix@realsocialdynamics.com and I'll answer them personally. I'll provide the solution to any challenge you can possibly put to me. Remember: even if an obstacle seems "big" to you, our team has probably faced it hundreds of times, so we can solve it in a SNAP.

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