Should You, or Shouldn’t You Kiss Her?

by Dave M.

Last night I had an interesting first meeting with a cute girl I’ve been talking to on match.com.

Blonde hair, slim, and really cute, but despite this I just really wasn’t getting that ‘I’m really interested in you” vibe from her. (which is totally cool.) Usually I know right away what the deal is. With her it was a grey area, and I wasn’t really sure.

When I go out my whole frame is: I’m just out to have fun and a great night. I don’t want anything from you. If things happen, great. If they don’t? that’s great too.

Therefore, no matter what happens, I ALWAYS have a great night. (and a lot less pressure)

While she was rambling on, and on all evening about… pretty much nothing, I had something else on my mind…

No, it’s not what you think. Let me explain.

During a few moments in the evening, our eyes locked together almost like tractor beams. You could feel the electricity in the air, and the chills down your spine which is always an exciting feeling to have, especially after meeting some ‘less than interesting’ women lately.

But I found myself wondering something…

Should I or shouldn’t I kiss her?

I wasn’t getting a really strong vibe from her, maybe she’s a bit more conservative when she first meets someone? (thats great but how the hell am I supposed to know this?)

This is something MANY guys struggle with on a daily basis, but I think I’ve found the answer. I’ll tell you about it in just a moment.

You’re out with her, things seem to be going well, or at least you think so… and you’re wondering if it’s the time to plant one on her. (I’m talking about a kiss for you brainiacs who didn’t get it)

The simple answer is: If you’re thinking if you should kiss her, then you probably should.

(and I should have taken my own advice much earlier in the evening instead of waiting)

The long answer is look for subtle ‘hints’ that she’s interested. Remember women are NOT direct, they are INdirect.

Which simply means shes not going to come out and say “I WANT YOU SO BAD, GET OVER HERE AND KISS ME”, but rather she’ll give you this little hints. (unless she’s that one chick from *** and the city lol)

Your “job” is to decipher these hints. Unfortunately most guys can’t because they have absolutely no clue what the woman is doing.

(ever wonder where “Men are from mars, women are from venus” comes from? Wonder no more)

Back to the answer… unfortunately I think many guys are asking the wrong questions, and thus get the wrong answers.

Most guys ask for this ‘magic’ pickup line, or some hypnotic ‘routine’, but the reality is it’s something totally different.

Think outside the box for a moment, and look at the deeper issue…

“It’s Better To Regret What You Have Done Than What You Haven’t.”

Many of us meet women only to realize after the interaction is over we totally messed up. Don’t worry, it happens to the best of us.

You were in the right situation with the right woman, and when the opportunity presented itself, you just dropped the ball.

The good news is no ones going to bite your arm off, or rob you at knifepoint if you don’t succeed, so you really have nothing to loose.

Just go out there and do it. Yes, you will mess up along the way, but there are no failures, only wrong ways of doing things.

So how did my meeting end? I took my own advice, we kissed, but since I’m not really sure about her interest, I’m going to play hard to get and let her call me. :)

Dave M. is author of the best-selling: Insider Internet Dating. Discover how a 32 year old computer geek got 398 dates with beautiful women in 4 years using an embarrassingly simple, ‘Dummy-Proof’ internet dating “Routine” which works nearly every time. Visit: http://www.insiderinternetdating.com/

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