Barry Kirkey Commands You To…”Drop the Pride, Punks”

by Stephen Nash

Hey man -

The latest from Barry below…also, did you check out that LaJoie video he posted last week? Man, I’ve been laughing my arse off for 7 days on that.

Thanks to everyone for the natural-pickup.com launch…you guys made it a big success, and I hope you’re already seeing some results IRL.

Now, Barry’s latest and greatest: “Drop the Pride, Punks”

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Self confidence is important for everybody, and the intention of this article isn’t to tell you that you shouldn’t be proud of who you are. The real intention is that if you want to be funny, learn to swallow your pride (once and a while) to actually take a joke.

Why is this important? Because it’s something that makes you likeable and being likeable is the quickest way to convince people that you’re genuinely funny.

Consider a situation in which you’re with people who are also funny and want to bounce around jokes. If you’re going to take offense to everything they say, or if you’re looking at their contribution to a conversation as “one-upping” you all the time, this isn’t going to work to your advantage.

In fact, not only will it slow down your comedy development, but make it worse. Nobody – and I say this clearly – nobody wants to hang around an asshole, even if the asshole is trying to be funny.

So let’s dive into a particular situation, you’re hanging out with some people socially, and you notice one person is paying attention to your jokes. One point for you, good job Coffee Face. This person then decides to throw in a few of his own jokes, which happen to be either slightly insulting, aggressive or overpowering…

This is the turning point, and you will have to make one of two decisions:

Option 1

The person is harmless, the joke is non-threatening and in good fun. This is the point where you need to cancel all warnings and roll with it – which can easily be a challenge for so many people. Seriously, just laugh and let the conversation roll or evolve into something good. Who knows, this might be someone who you can learn some new bits about being funny. These situations might occur when someone takes your joke and “builds” on it (i.e. makes it more extreme, extravagant, etc).

The main message here is this: Don’t let this fool you in to thinking you’re being “one-upped” because most of the time you’re not. Take what they’re building on and build further until you’ve milked it dry. My experience with this with my friends Greg and Stefan, and even Stephen Nash is pretty much endless, and it’s one of the contributing factors in my overall knowledge of comedy. Don’t throw this away without making sure it’s not going to help you.

Option 2

The guy is a threat, and his goal is to put you down at all costs. This is usually obvious through his tone, but even if you think this is the case, your first reaction should be the same as it is for Option 1. Just laugh it off and move on. When you laugh it off, this should immediately diffuse the bomb and the aggressor will realize that he can’t bully you into being a target. If this does not work then you have some work to do. You can either:

• Play the game and try to “out-douche” him – I don’t recommend this. By doing this, you risk ruining your reputation, and sinking to his level.
• Leave, and talk to other people, or walk away – This is the best course of action, because it tells everybody around you that you’re above this – and most people will be smart enough to realize that this guy is a total jackass. If they don’t, then you need to start hanging around a better and more respectful crowd of friends.

Either way, if you want to be funny, you have to be able to embrace it in all directions, not only from what you’re actually saying, but from what other people say to you.

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Thanks Barry. If you want to check out his work, and even listen in on his latest radio show (which is hysterical), go here:

http://www.revolution31.com/blog/

Over ‘n out man -

Stephen.
Cutting Edge Image Consulting

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