Better Dates With Language That Baits

In this article I will share with you one of the handful of powerful techniques for getting someone more interested in you. Of course I always recommend that people become more interesting and this conversational technique will get you started in the right direction.

With a little bit of practice you will find yourself doing less on dates and getting better and better results :)

Before we get to this technique let us go over some of the most common traps that people fall into on dates.

Things to avoid :

1. Asking so many questions that your date feels as if they are being interrogated.

This usually happens when someone feels nervous and does not know what to say so they ask a bunch of random or boring questions.

2. Unloading and sharing too much information, too soon.

This can seem "creepy" or "needy" and can be overwhelming to your date.

Then there are people that will go out with you just to avoid being at home alone. They are not really interested in you so they will only enjoy themselves if the event, setting, diner, movie, etc. are to their taste.

Even these unresponsive dates can be improved using this powerful technique of baiting language.

The basics of this technique are to ask yourself what you want to know about the other person and what you want them to know about you.

What will make them feel more interested and attracted to you?

So you combine direct questions with statements that bait that person into asking more questions. The more questions they ask, the more curious they become and the more they want to know.

You bait them with parts of your story and they will want to know more and more and will then share similar information with you. This makes dating more interactive and fun.

Due to human psychology we tend to become more interested in people that we are curious about and the more we want to know about them, the more intrigued we become. We start to think of them even when we are apart and wonder about what they are doing at that moment and so we hypnotize ourselves into becoming more attracted to them. We want to see them again and again.

So when you bait someone into asking you more and more questions that become more and more intimate, they get to feel more attracted and interested in you.

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EXAMPLES :

Spice up your conversation with bait rather than telling a long and boring story about a trip you took.

~ "You know, I have lived in New York now for 3 years and I am still amazed at the energy of this city."

Your date will most likely ask you where you are from originally. I think this is starting to make sense to you.

~"New Yorkers have a different kind of energy from the people I met on vacation."

If your date does not ask what you mean by this or where you vacationed then you can tease a bit more before going onto another topic.

~ "Really! I noticed something fascinating about the people here in New York compared with people in Europe."

The unspoken questions are : What did you notice? Where in Europe did you visit? Did you go there on Business or pleasure? Did you go there alone? etc.

It will feel natural for them to share some insights about what they noticed on their own travels or they may be even more interested in where you have visited if they have never left their home town.

You may feel pride in your job or career and this is also something many people ask about or talk about during a date. If your date does not ask any questions about you then they are either not interested in you or they are too shy or nervous to ask you questions.

It is your responsibility to find out if they are uninterested or just shy and to help them to relax and feel more comfortable and interested. You can focus on them and draw their interest that way.

~ "I noticed something about you. Maybe, because of what I do for a living. Remind me to show you something later on."

The missing details are : What did you notice about them? What do you do for a living? Did you notice something good or bad about them? What will you show them?

So the first step before going on your next date is you write out a bunch of questions that you would like to know about someone.

Then you write out your history and you take out some of the boring facts and details and by re-wording your statements with baiting language you get them more intrigued about you and more involved on the date. Then practice this out loud so it feels smoother and more natural on your dates.

Personally, I feel that common interests are important in relationships so I often took dates to music and video stores to go shopping or browsing. You get to discover more about each other from your musical tastes and tastes in movies and this improves your connection.

So if there is music playing in the background you can use this language bait.

~ "Wow! This song reminds me of when I was playing in one of my bands when I was in College." You can smile with a far off look on your face and just wait for them to ask. It helps if you use your real life stories and remember them as you use this technique. Emotions are more powerful than boring facts and figures so you will attract them this way.

This will usually get someone to wonder what kind of band you were playing in, what other kinds of music you played, do you still play music, what instrument? etc.

So have fun spicing up your biography and history with some baiting language that will get your dates wanting to know more about you and to see you again!

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